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prepping for a peaceful postpartum
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Who wouldn’t want a positive transition and to feel valued & nurtured during the postpartum time? We spend an incredible amount of time during pregnancy preparing for birth, but not for the fourth trimester - the becoming of a mom.

Postpartum is very special. Breastfeeding itself can take weeks to establish. Sleep deprivation can have you hallucinating, forgetting things and leave you emotionally drained. The gynecological aspects of postpartum can be painful and scary. And in the midst of this huge transition, you’re trying to get to know a freshly made baby human whom you love more than all the stars and also help her transition into this world.

We’re wired for intensive support during the postpartum time. We need that support to emerge as confident, connected and calm mothers. We tend to give so much attention to pregnancy, birth and the new baby that we neglect our women during the postpartum time, and no wonder that there is an increase in postpartum depression, mood disorders, bonding problems and other health issues related to postpartum.

So, planning for a peaceful postpartum time would make all the sense, right?

Here are a few questions to ask yourself while preparing for your peaceful postpartum time!

  • Do you have food prepared? Who will cook meals for you?

  • Perineal pain, how will you manage it?

  • Do you have anyone to turn to when everything feels like a struggle?

  • Have you considered the benefits of wearing your baby in a wrap or sling?

  • Have you thought about how your relationship might shift with your new role as parents?

  • Have you thought about how the hormonal changes might affect your emotions and physical recovery?

  • What can you do to get more sleep when caring for a newborn all night and day?

  • What people can you count on helping you out?

  • Where can you connect with other parents?

  • What can you do to boost your oxytocin levels? (If you’re high in oxytocin you will have a higher tolerance for repetitive tasks)

  • Your partner will play a huge role in recovery. How can you most lovingly include him in your postpartum journey?

xo

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what would your dream birth look like? | how to write a birth plan

I hope you don’t mind that it’s been a little bit silent here on the blog. Being pregnant and settling in as a family of four (and enjoying precious moments) has taken all my time…

What would your dream birth look like?

One of my midwives completely changed my mindset toward giving birth when she shared this question on her Instagram.

The standard prenatal care over here is usually limited to 30 minutes focusing on pretty much nothing else than on the growth of the belly and measuring blood pressure. It really does not impress me now after I’ve had the opportunity to attend & experience prenatal therapy pre baby no. 2.

Questioning what my dream birth would look like together with my prenatal therapist/midwife when I was pregnant with our second child lead me to one of my favorite days in my whole life. Together with having two wonderful caregivers and a husband who deserves at least 500 lifetimes of love for being the best support, I had the most amazing care & birth, and a great postpartum time… I couldn’t have wished for more!

Having someone help you lead your birth should be part of every woman’s experience of prenatal care, because the birth of a mama and baby, is so much more than just letting whatever happen and taking orders from someone with medical expertise without trusting any of your instincts. You’re the life giver, and it is crucial that you need to feel good, supported and respected by your prenatal caregiver throughout pregnancy and birth.

When I was assigned a new midwife for prenatal therapy (it was an important part of healing from the traumatic labor of our first child and helped me power up for another one) I realized how much of my first birth had gone wrong. This amazing woman who also had the expertise of taking care of mommas with the same chronic illness I have (EDS) helped me put together my thoughts on what my dream birth would look like, and it took form as a birth plan.

Writing a birth plan is a great way to mentally prepare for labor and is an amazing tool to help actually looking forward to birthing your baby even if you, like me, have had an earlier traumatic experience.
 

"Surround yourself with positive thoughts and stories. Think about how you would like to give birth."


So here I'm sharing my tips on how to write a birth plan! I'll leave you with some questions you can answer & then include in the plan. Remember to write your letter based on who you are and what you think you will need as support! And, the most important thing to ask yourself throughout all of this is “What would your dream birth look like?” Really think through how you would like to give birth. Surround yourself with positive thoughts!

  • Is there anything you'd like the midwife/nurses/doctors to know about your previous labor if you've had one?

  • What are your wishes when it comes to pain management? Do you know what medical pain relief you want or do you want help managing without it (if so, how?)

  • Are there any certain medications that you under no circumstances want?

  • How do you react when you are scared/stressed? What is the best way to help you?

  • If an emergency C-section is needed, do you have any wishes surrounding it?

  • Do you have any strong fears that might affect the birth of your child? (ie. needles)

  • Do you have any other requests for this to be your dream birth?
    This one can be a bit tricky if you've never given birth before so I'll give you a couple of examples. It can be wishing for as few vaginal exams as possible. It can be water immersion during the first stage of labor for pain relief (this is gold!!!). Dimmed lights and as quiet as possible in delivery room. No students or interns present. That you want to be covered with a blanket during and after exams. Avoiding vacuum extraction. That you want to help catch the baby. That they remember to keep you hydrated + give you food/snacks as the hours pass by...

And then of course, you might want something totally different when you’re finally in labor, and that’s totally okay. Remember to print your plan out and put it in your hospital bag, and make sure that every new person who enters the room where you deliver read it! <3

Did you ever write a birth plan or are you going to? Have you received guidance + support for your pregnancy & upcoming birth?

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francis & henry - maternity & nursing wear

Here are a few things I continuously wished for during my pregnancy; kebab pizza, ice, liver pâté & pickles, books for our babe and pretty maternity wear. Talking about the latter, meaning maternity wear, I really wished for a Francis & Henry's mama bundle. Little did I know, the only person who knew I actually wished for this made sure that was what I got on my surprise baby shower. Thanks everyone who was a part of it!

It's a package of four things. Now, if you're wondering how the Francis & Henry Nursing Dress has been working for me, it's been good. Way better than a hospital gown, incredibly pretty in real life, very comfortable and super functional for nursing.
The Jersey Cardigan is perfect to put on if it's a little cool, and the Muslin Wrap that also comes with the mama bundle is such a beautiful and soft thing to put in the baby's bed (we have ours in Josef's baby nest!).

Now if these beautiful pieces of clothing only could wash themselves from milk stains... ;)

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