Dealing with the pain of having had an absent parent, being treated like less for being born a daughter/son and having a parent who have let their dysfunction and brokenness affect their ability to parent is hard.
Here are a few ways to keep yourself in check:
1. Go to therapy. See the life coach. Read the books. Get the tools. Process. Process. Process.
2. Set the boundaries. Be your own boundary police. Set up your own rules to protect your heart. Do what has to be done to protect your borders.
3. Break the cycle. Be who you needed, and who you wished to have had. Work to leave the legacy of hurt behind.
4. Allow grace to grow in your heart. It keeps your heart soft. We need more soft hearts in this world.
“We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls.” - Winston Churchill