Who wouldn’t want a positive transition and to feel valued & nurtured during the postpartum time? We spend an incredible amount of time during pregnancy preparing for birth, but not for the fourth trimester - the becoming of a mom.
Postpartum is very special. Breastfeeding itself can take weeks to establish. Sleep deprivation can have you hallucinating, forgetting things and leave you emotionally drained. The gynecological aspects of postpartum can be painful and scary. And in the midst of this huge transition, you’re trying to get to know a freshly made baby human whom you love more than all the stars and also help her transition into this world.
We’re wired for intensive support during the postpartum time. We need that support to emerge as confident, connected and calm mothers. We tend to give so much attention to pregnancy, birth and the new baby that we neglect our women during the postpartum time, and no wonder that there is an increase in postpartum depression, mood disorders, bonding problems and other health issues related to postpartum.
So, planning for a peaceful postpartum time would make all the sense, right?
Here are a few questions to ask yourself while preparing for your peaceful postpartum time!
Do you have food prepared? Who will cook meals for you?
Perineal pain, how will you manage it?
Do you have anyone to turn to when everything feels like a struggle?
Have you considered the benefits of wearing your baby in a wrap or sling?
Have you thought about how your relationship might shift with your new role as parents?
Have you thought about how the hormonal changes might affect your emotions and physical recovery?
What can you do to get more sleep when caring for a newborn all night and day?
What people can you count on helping you out?
Where can you connect with other parents?
What can you do to boost your oxytocin levels? (If you’re high in oxytocin you will have a higher tolerance for repetitive tasks)
Your partner will play a huge role in recovery. How can you most lovingly include him in your postpartum journey?